Troublesome Bedtime

The other day I was discussing with my mom about our  mischievous lovely darling  and her sleep habits and then I discovered a few other things about myself and my brother’s childhood too.

Whenever my lovely girl goes to bed, she needs all her toys especially those that cannot be put on her bed while going to sleep. She takes all the blocks,drum ,sticks and whatever she plays when she is about to sleep, and the biggest problem is that we cannot remove one from the bed at all  before she gets sleep. 

We both have to sleep in midst of all her toys and sometimes she just cuddles near me and push aside all her toys to her dad’s side and poor her dad, he has to find place to sleep after moving all those toys to a  side. :). Anyways am quite not lucky enough , because she carries a xylophone stick , that most of the times she pokes into my eyes or head or ears and where ever she can before she doze off.

And once she sleeps off , we remove all those and keep it near our bed , because at times middle of the night she wakes up and asks for all her toys .Damn her memory …she counts all the toys ,so can’t even fool her then too. :)

As I was complaining about her to my mom ,she said , this is no different from what myself and my brother were doing when we were kids too. Kids at all stages do the same  :) , may be a little less or a little  more.

 

Dad’s melting heart

 

Dad’s are truly so sweet I feel, they show toughness outside , but most of them just melt away at the sweet request of their lovely kids.

One best example is my lovely husband ,though he shows up to us as a serious guy, he is the right opposite to our lovely darling.Once she comes up with requests , which she knows her mom , that’s me , won’t do it for her, she starts all her drams and the first one to fall for it is her dad.

Other day , she was asking for chocolates and immediately I said no to it, as I wanted to be a good mom and not to spoil her teeth ….and her dad repeated the same. But she was adamant , she though to keep on trying because she knows either one of us will fall for her demands.

She kept crying ,and I immediately moved to the kitchen, not to see her, else I would be the first to agree to her.Her dad as usual said “NO ” to her first ,then slowly when her cry grew more n more louder ,he said ” I don’t have chocolates here , I will go get it from outside” , then again the next stage of crying started ,then her dad said ” OK , only one chocolate, no more OK” .

And it all ended up in her having 4 chocolates in her hand , and I couldn’t stop laughing.Seriously , dads are sweet , they can’t stop themselves in making their sweet little pie happy.

The time my lil one , enters home back from her school, she keeps calling her dad, thinking he might be hiding in somewhere , waiting to surprise her. Even when he is late from work, she keeps waiting for him, that’s the loveliest thing to see and the moment he puts the key in the door to open, then she jumps up with joy.

For dad’s their lil angel will be the same , how much ever they grow.

Everyday a new lesson

Its quite challenging to be a parent ,we need to be a teacher, a friend,a scientist, a researcher and all together a mother. 

They need a change always . Earlier my lovely daughter used to sleep and nowadays  she doesn’t . Things change , she needs something more to do in the day, either go out for shopping ,or parks or need to see her friends.

I try hours and hours to make her sleep ,as she becomes tired and of course I need some time to myself, which seems to real impossible thing in the near future. I am anyways finding out something new to play or to do , and even to eat , so that she finds some variety.

I waited for summer to arrive and last week seemed to be quite good enough promising better coming weeks, but it turned to out to be the opposite , its rainy and that means remaining indoors is the best else chances of falling sick.

As a mom what all things I have to keep checking , I never thought I will ever have to do check the weather just to get out of the house, as I never used to be worried of the same.Now I keep searching for ideas to keep her engaged else she will eat my brain and I hate to be out of patience with her.

Seriously Learning never ends, am learning a lot about parenting . Again many more …..to go.

 

You do… I too do the same

My lil daughter is following that pattern now, imitating her dad and her mom.

She wants to wear the same kind of slippers that I wear and says ” Mama..matching matching ” .The whole day when she is with me, she wears that, once her dad enters home, she needs to wear slippers something similar to her dad.She does not even let him remove it and sit anywhere, all time it should be on his legs ( poor her dad).

When am cooking , she looks at me and tries to copy exactly what I do , like if am stirring something in the pan, she too does the same. If I stand leaning on to the table , she does the same… it’s so lovely and cute to see them do all these. 

In bad sense I meant , many times when I get angry on her, for her mischievousness , I raise my hands to show her that I would beat her, and I noticed that , she does the same to her doll , while she was playing with it. I felt sad, bad and totally lost, and didn’t know what to do. The act I did was killing me inside , I felt I should not have done it, and I have to correct it.Now whenever I get angry , I try to control ,myself , not to enact such silly mistakes.

Kids learn a lot from us, even though we don’t teach them as such, they tend to learn from what they see around.As parents , we need to be quite sure what words we use, what actions we show and many more. 

Laziness !!!!

Every week  Friday comes ,its just another lazy day for me, it doesn’t mean other days am not lazy, its just that , am more lazy on a Friday.

Everything around me ,seems to be so blurred ,except my bed or sofa, and of course my laptop.Just feels to cuddle around in my bed ,with my laptop and my lovely lil daughter sleeping near me, the best afternoon for me. But by evening the laziness is at the worst, I can’t even see my kitchen , but of course my tummy keeps rumbling, and the solution for it , is to get food from outside. :)

We sometimes have to take a break from the daily routines and get rid of all the responsibilities , That’s the best way to feel more energetic and we return to our normal routine with more happiness as we miss our work.

Sometimes when am too lazy, I ignore what mess I have around me, its just me and the bed , nothing else ,and after a good sleep, I feel  better to start of my work.

Indeed its true that distance from anything either its a person or a job or a thing makes fondness grow more towards it.Everyone requires a break ,once in a while, nothing can work continuously without wear n tear, it has to stop over doing anything . 

Parents know … listen to them

 

When we were kids , most of the things we used to do , our parents say, don’t do it , its not good for you  , or may be they say its bad to do . Even then , most of us were so happy to continue what we had being doing , until we realize it on our own. 

When I was a kid, my mom keeps telling me not to eat too many chocolates , it might harm my teeth, and I used to wonder , why she never want me to eat all lovely sweet things in the world. As my daughter arrived in my life, things changed, I started to think like my mom, I keep telling her , “don’t do this” ,” don’t do that ” ,” don’t eat this” , ” you should eat healthy things, chocolates are bad for you”  , and the history repeats , she never listens to me. :(

Whatever our parents used to say , most of us turns a deaf ear to them, but , our inner self , takes all these advises into storage ( our brain) and use it , when we have kids , or any other loved ones. 

Its true , that , by the time a child understands their parents, they will be a  parent themselves. 

Our parents show us many things , many ways to live a happier life , but at times we failed to notice.They show us , what we need to live for , what we have to achieve and we have to throw out of our life , they wanted us to survive and not compete.

Hope we could do the same to our kids too and be a good parent , so that one day , as I am proud to have such wonderful parents ,my daughter too be.

 

Me and my dad :)

The cutest thing i have ever seen in my world is the bonding between my lil one and her dad. 

Its so beautiful , she being a daddy’s lil angel. However they grow, it will be the same .I too love to be with my dad .We speak a lot about my aspirations, my dreams , and many more. 

My lil darling waits for her dad to come home , before she sleeps, other day when I put her to sleep ,as he might be late from work, she kept on asking me why he was not coming mama ? why is he late ?? and many more questions . She waits near the door , waiting for the slightest  sound of the door opening or even his footsteps  and her dad entering into the house, where then, she can call out me saying that her ‘dad is home’.She keeps on murmuring to herself about him and drifts to sleep. 

The moment  he enters the house , if he finds her sleeping, he comes and give her a sweet kiss on her forehead ,and of course,  he will be missing his time with her.

If she is wide awake ,then , the enthusiasm  she shows is like a stimulus for him , to which he responds , and  they both starts to play around and I keep watching them. Its like he initiates everything to play with her, but due to tiredness he cannot proceed more and she will be like more energetic and wants to play with him ,even if it for the whole night. ;)

Earlier whenever I ask him to take her out alone, he used to panic, as if I asked him to face something dangerous. But now things have changed , he feel bad, if he doesn’t take her along.

Its so special to watch them , play together, eat together and cuddle together. At night , however she pushes him almost out of the bed. ;) I wonder , when he might fall out of bed.